How to properly divorce your wife: division of property

Why might men want a divorce?

A man may insist on divorce for various reasons:

1. if a woman has outwardly changed for the worse. Practice shows that with the birth of a child, representatives of the fairer sex often neglect their appearance. Domestic issues, caring for children, everyday problems often overwhelm a woman, and she neglects herself. In such cases, men, before leaving, usually hint to their wife that they would like to see a well-groomed spouse next to them, and not a housewife in a robe with her hair carelessly tied up in a bun;
2. love has passed . People living together under the same roof may change their outlook on life and interests. In such cases, a man may want to leave his wife, who has become a stranger;
3. wife's betrayal . Infidelity of the other half becomes the reason for divorce in 67% of cases. Practice shows that men cannot forgive betrayal. Even those husbands who believe that they have forgiven their wife for going “to the left” are deceiving themselves. Usually this bitter lump of resentment is always reflected in quarrels. As a result, distrust of the wife arises. And this is a bad sign. After cheating, husbands begin to torment their spouses with suspicion and jealousy. Therefore, divorce in such cases is almost always inevitable. Perhaps it will happen in the future on the initiative of a woman who will get tired of enduring scenes of jealousy;
4. the wife constantly teaches life and causes scandals on domestic grounds . Men also get divorced for this reason, explaining their action by the desire to leave their wife, who “hashed up.” Representatives of the stronger sex experience it especially painfully when a wife, in the presence of friends or just strangers, begins her moralizing, humiliating the head of the family;
5. disagreements on the issue of raising children . This reason rarely becomes a reason for divorce, but such stories still arise. A man can leave the family if his wife has taken upon herself the issue of raising her son and is raising him to be a “wimp” while the father wants to instill masculinity in the heir. In some cases, a family may fall apart if a man sees his wife’s constant severity towards a child whom the father wants to pamper more often;
6. a woman earns more than the head of the family . It has been proven that many men are depressed by a woman’s career success. The situation can be aggravated by the constant commanding tone that a woman often develops after successful career growth. The male position in such cases is clear - end the relationship as soon as possible;

7. 
   uninteresting sex life

   . This aspect is less likely to cause divorce. Typically, sexually hyperactive men become fixated on this nuance. They may get tired of their wife's passivity and monotony in sex. Dissatisfaction with sex life can be elevated to the rank of the main reason for divorce by those men who are faced with a woman’s hyperactivity in sex. This line of behavior for a lady is wrong, as it suppresses the masculine principle. To prevent family life from ending in divorce precisely for this reason, it is worth finding a middle ground in sexual relationships;
8. The wife does not want to have children . When a man gets married, he always understands that the result of the relationship should be children. If the spouse constantly postpones this issue indefinitely, this may upset the man, and in the end a divorce will occur;
9. the appearance of a mistress . This reason often becomes a reason for dissolving the union. If the mistress behaves wiser than his wife in many aspects, there is a risk that the husband will decide to live in two houses and will continue to cheat. In this case, a woman should think about what her mistake is;
10. the husband is a “wallet” who constantly has to pay for female attention . This reason for divorce can arise in families where the husband earns well. The husband may be dissatisfied that the wife asks to buy her a dress for a delicious dish, or demands a fur coat for variety in sex. To prevent divorce from happening, a woman must understand that all of the listed “services” are the responsibilities of the spouse.

Time spent together

As is well known, nothing brings people closer together than doing something together. A real family always has many options for joint leisure when everyone gets together: both parents and children. This could be anything: a walk in the park, ice skating or skiing, joint leisure time at home, etc. When organizing a family weekend, it is imperative to consult with your husband. It is necessary to take into account and share his hobbies and interests, support his ideas.

Maybe your husband wants to go fishing? Great, that means he will teach his son to fish, and mother and daughter will be the most passionate fans in the game of “who can catch who.” And the fishermen will definitely want to eat.

Why not play laser tag or paintball with the whole family, or arrange a computer game championship?

Does your child have a performance or competition? Great, that means his parents should support him. Why not involve your spouse in these small but joyful tasks of organizing joint leisure time and the lives of the children?

You can also periodically arrange get-togethers with friends or go somewhere just the two of you with your husband. Sometimes it doesn’t hurt for both of you to fall back into childhood: throw snowballs, push each other into snowdrifts, build a snowman. Such moments bring us together and remain in our memory for a long time.

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What to do if your husband wants a divorce?

If a man is determined to divorce, and his wife does not want to part with her husband, it is worth both of them to talk. We need to understand the reasons. When a mistress appears, you should ask the initiator of the divorce why she attracted him.

If a man wants children, and his wife was against this idea, it is worth changing his attitude towards the appearance of heirs. If the husband is dissatisfied with the fact that he should thank his wife for the variety in sex by buying a beautiful thing, it makes sense to discuss this.

In cases where a man is ready to leave because his wife has stopped taking care of herself, the wife urgently needs to lose weight, get a beautiful haircut, grow eyelashes and nails, and change her image.

When communicating with a man who wants to put an end to the relationship, it is important to feel how firm he is in his intentions. If a woman offers to restore the relationship, and her husband does not strongly oppose this, then there is a chance to “glue the crack.”

How to behave if your husband filed for divorce?

If a spouse files for divorce, it means that he has already decided that he never wants to see his wife again.
In the event of a divorce, this person will be active. And it will be expressed both in legal, housing, and material issues. If a woman does not have a well-paid job and an interesting business that can absorb her entirely, she begins to behave like a victim. In fact, this behavior is erroneous. If a man decides to leave, the woman must develop the right line of behavior.

It is worth understanding that a man will not want to return to a lady who portrays herself as a victim out of pity. It is also too late to scold and shame a spouse who has already filed for divorce, since a feeling of guilt will not appear in him.

Psychologists recommend that a woman gain strength and remember the saying “everything that is done is for the better.”

Crazy thought4

You could be the victim of some wild thought that flew into your head and caused a stir among the cockroaches. It happens. Most likely, you just wanted drive and adventure. You remember well how you picked up girls, how you could turn your head. You just need to go left.

Good news: no one forbids flirting with beautiful strangers. Do you want to boost your self-esteem? Well, go ahead. But remember: you are not 20 years old anymore. I bet that you will go to young beauties to exercise, but do they need you? That is the question. And your manners with a lonely flower and “Rafaelka” will not impress anyone. Conclusion: in order to arouse genuine interest in a girl, you need to drive up not in a classic pickup truck, but in a Mercedes. You just know... Your wife's burning eyes are much more beautiful. A woman is such a creature: the more romantic things her husband does, the brighter his wife looks.

It’s even worse with mature women: they’ve already been married and don’t want to go there anymore, believe me.

And doubts may also begin to gnaw at you. This is understandable, because it may happen that nothing changes. Well, except that now there is no wife nearby. In such a situation, it would be advisable to try an imitation divorce. Live separately. Believe me, you will immediately understand what you want. This method has saved more than one couple from divorce and at the same time allowed many to survive the separation much easier. The thing is that your spouse is unlikely to call you a super-husband and rank you as an ideal. And the likelihood that she will quickly get used to living in splendid isolation, but at the same time being in absolute happiness, is high. Yes, you yourself can catch the melancholy and understand that the thought of parting is crazy. Or maybe vice versa, you, like your wife, will taste all the fruits of a free life and become a completely happy person.

And yet, don’t rush into a new relationship like you’re in a whirlpool. Live for yourself, relax. Why dance on a rake with the persistence of a moron. Girls only at first walk with the eyes of an alluring doe. Being married, they repeat each other as if they were a carbon copy. And everything will start all over again.

What to do if your wife cries, says she loves you and delays breaking up?

When a wife tearfully begs to save the marriage, a man should weigh the situation again. If a husband wants to leave because his wife has “gone to death,” he should listen to the lady’s tearful requests. She is probably really ready to change her behavior tactics.

If a spouse who previously did not want to give birth is already ready to take this step, you should forget about divorce. When there has been betrayal, but the woman has repented and demands forgiveness, you need to listen to her words.

But in this case, everything depends on whether the husband can forget about the infidelity of his other half. If so, it makes sense to give the relationship a second chance. If a representative of the stronger sex intends to put an end to it as quickly as possible, he should be patient and act.

A woman who does not want to break off the relationship will not be able to delay the official separation for long, since she will be invited to court many times. Ultimately, the authority will dissolve the union in absentia.

Intimate life

This is one of the very important aspects of family life for all husbands. For some reason, ladies think that they can blackmail people in bed. But more often than not, such tactics lead to betrayal. The other extreme is monotony. If everything happens according to the same scenario every time, the man gets bored of it too. Variety is also important in this aspect. You can buy a book or watch a couple of videos about new techniques, and then try them on your husband.

It is important to discuss this topic. Men usually have a huge number of fantasies and plans in their heads. We need to make sure that the husband is not ashamed to at least share his dreams. And don't be afraid to try to implement some of them. If something goes wrong or you don’t like it, don’t be silent, you need to discuss everything calmly and openly. The man is not a psychic; he is unlikely to be able to guess on his own what his partner didn’t like.

Watching adult movies together also increases attraction levels. Maybe a couple of new ideas will appear on how to diversify your intimate life.

You need to be attentive to your husband, notice what he likes, and sometimes take the initiative into your own hands. It’s not just the man who has to try hard in bed!

How to get a divorce without the consent of the other party?

Article 22 of the RF IC addresses the issue of divorce without the consent of the second participant in the marriage relationship. If both people want to dissolve family ties (and they do not have common children or conflict over the division of property), it is worth going to the registry office. If the wife does not want a divorce, she will have to go to court.

A justice of the peace can help with this issue. But you need to go to him when there are no disputes regarding the issue of children’s residence, or if the joint property is valued at no more than 50,000 rubles.

If property with a higher final value was acquired during the marriage, or if the issue of the child’s residence has not been resolved, it is worth going to the district court. There are other cases when you can get a divorce without the consent of the other party. This is the fact of the wife’s incapacity and her unknown disappearance.

It should be understood that a man will not be officially divorced unilaterally when his wife is on maternity leave or there is a baby who is under one year old.

How to dissolve a marriage if there are minor children?

There are two options:

• contact the registry office;
• file a claim in court.

Divorce in the presence of common minor children is possible only in court proceedings after filing a statement of claim from the husband/wife.

If there is a struggle for a child, then the following steps will have to be taken:

1. obtain a document from the guardianship authorities that all conditions have been created for you to live together with your children;
2. take a certificate of income from work, which will show that you have enough money to support your child;
3. get recommendations from your place of employment and other public authorities that you can raise your child well;
4. talk to the child and explain without emotion that he will be better off with his father, using specific facts (it must also be said that the father will give the child permission to meet with his mother).

After the verdict is made, the defendant can appeal the decision within 10 days. If the counterclaim of protest does not follow, the court decision comes into force.

Sometimes you need breaks

Of course, being together always and everywhere is great, but sometimes a person needs personal space or peace. Some people simply, due to their personality traits, like to be alone. And such an opportunity must be given to him. For example, after a long day of work, a man may need some time to switch to home mode. You shouldn't be bombarded with news at this time. Let your husband come to his senses. Then he will be able to calmly listen to the woman and suggest some solutions.

From time to time you need to give each other a break from your other half, because constant communication can also become boring and boring. Why not let your husband go to some “stag party” alone, and go to a “bachelorette party” yourself? Only such a break from each other should not be repeated too often.

Legal regulation of marriage and principles of its dissolution if the other half is a foreigner

Dissolution of a marriage between a resident of the Russian Federation and a foreign citizen is carried out according to the laws of the Russian Federation, if the relationship was formalized on its territory.

With mutual consent, spouses who do not have children together and live abroad will be able to file a divorce at the Russian consulate, taking into account the place of residence of one of the parties to the marriage. If for a good reason (illness, service) the spouse cannot come to the consulate, the couple will have to certify a joint application at the registry office.

After this, the second spouse will be able to provide the paper to the consulate independently. If a marriage between a citizen of the Russian Federation and a foreigner took place on the territory of another state in the competent authorities, then the dissolution procedure is carried out according to the laws of the foreign country. Moreover, in Russia such a divorce is recognized as valid.

The exception is when the other half objects. In this case, the adopted foreign decision is considered by the Russian court on the basis of a statement of claim filed by the dissatisfied spouse.

Advice from a psychologist on how to propose to break up correctly

Not every person is able to divorce peacefully and without emotions. Therefore, before you tell your other half the unpleasant news, you should prepare for the conversation.

Psychologists suggest doing this:

1. First, think about your decision and evaluate all the pros and cons of the action. Before a conversation with your spouse, you should think about all your phrases so as not to shock the person and not cause a stream of hatred;
2. it makes sense to prepare in advance and put aside in a safe place the necessary documents, copies, which the spouse, in a fit of aggression, can hide or destroy;
3. For a conversation, you should choose a crowded place where it will be difficult to cause a scandal. Children should not be allowed to witness the conversation;
4. You should not schedule a conversation in the morning, when after sleep you need to rush to work. You can talk about this topic calmly in the evening;
5. the decision made should be formulated: “I want to get a divorce.” It should not have a double meaning, so as not to give false hope to the other half;
6. you need to raise the topic of children smoothly. If your wife reacts with a burst of negative emotions, you should let her cool down (it’s always difficult for women to hold on to their feelings). Then you should reassure your spouse by telling her that no one is taking her children away. You can mention the alimony that the initiator of the separation will provide for the maintenance of the child. The offended party most likely will not refuse them;
7. You should not offer friendship to your wife (for the sake of civic duty) if she continues to maintain warm feelings and does not want to let go of her loved one.

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Help each other

It often turns out that all household chores and concerns about raising children fall on women’s shoulders. And the owner of the house also works. And everyone believes that this is how it should be, that this is the natural state of affairs. Including the spouse. And it turns out that the wife is running around like crazy, trying to do everything at once. As a result, she has neither time nor energy left for anyone or anything. Only fatigue and irritation.

However, a woman must understand that this cannot continue for long. Sooner or later she will get bogged down in these everyday problems, and her husband will not appreciate her exploits. On the contrary, he will lose interest in his constantly busy wife, and if she also lashes out at him out of fatigue and scolds him, then this will never lead to anything good.

You need to learn to save time, energy and delegate tasks. For example, involve your husband in checking the children’s homework or asking him to wash the dishes. Or help with preparing a dish (for example, chopping meat or pumpkin). And for the children, dust and clean their room.

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