Unfortunately (or perhaps fortunately), after submitting an application to register a marriage at the registry office, situations arise when a couple or even one of the potential spouses decides to refuse to get married.
According to statistics, this happens to approximately every thirtieth couple. But the application has already been submitted, the date and location of the ceremony have been set. And here the question arises, how to withdraw the application from the registry office, and is it even possible to do this?
Procedure
There are situations when a couple hastened to submit an application to the registry office to register their marriage. We are often asked how to pick him up in such a situation.
There is sometimes advice on the Internet that you can simply not come to the wedding procedure and everything will be fine. It is not recommended to do this to avoid being fined.
And, of course, you should just respect other people’s time. After all, someone could plan a wedding for this day and get married instead of you. Remember that you can refuse to register a marriage on any day when your registry office is open.
If you have firmly decided that you do not want a wedding, follow our recommendations. Below we have outlined for you an approximate procedure:
In order to comply with the law, it is not necessary to come to the registry office together; any of you can do this of your own free will and alone.
- Before withdrawing your application, warn your partner of your intention. This condition is not mandatory and is not regulated by law, but this step will help avoid unpleasant situations in the future. Such a step on your part will help maintain a good relationship with your failed spouse.
- After this, you need to meet with a registry office employee , who will ask you a few questions. Tell her that you want to write a refusal to register the marriage. You can indicate absolutely any reason, for example, that you changed your mind or decided to postpone the wedding date a year ahead. You don’t have to specify a reason at all if you don’t want to.
- When filling out, please indicate the details of the application that you submitted jointly. Such details include the date of acceptance, registration number of the application, data of both spouses.
- In the upper left corner, indicate the registry office office to which you are writing the refusal. You can also ask an employee for a sample to fill out.
- Hand over the documents to the civil registry office employee and wait until she makes a note in the special record book. Remember that you must take your passport with you, otherwise they will not be able to help you. Now you can do whatever you want.
But at present, the application itself may not even be given to you, since it is sent to the archives.
Take back registration refusal
If, however, circumstances have changed so much that the parties decide to re-initiate the registration procedure, then you will need to pay the state fee again and submit another application to the registry office. You will have to wait again for a month.
An old application, which was refused, can be put into action again if it did not have time to be archived, and the employees of the institution met the couple halfway. This often happens in situations where a couple issued a refusal in the morning and returned in the evening to pick it up.
All registration procedures of the registry office must be carried out on the basis of the requirements of civil and family legislation. If any rules for forming a refusal to register are violated, it is possible to send a complaint to a higher department of this body.
Written request by mail
A situation often arises when no one wants to go to the registry office to pick up an application for marriage registration.
This happens because the bride and groom stop communicating or they accumulate grievances.
In the end, no one wants to come back on this issue because the wedding has already been cancelled.
And it also happens that the newlyweds go to different cities and there is no one to go to the registry office where the documents were submitted.
But even in such a situation, the issue can be resolved; to do this, you need to send a letter demanding the return of the application. The following documents must be included in the letter:
- A statement in which you need to indicate your request for the return of the application. It can be written in free form or you can download it from our website.
- A copy of your passport, which must be notarized. This is very important, otherwise your request may be ignored.
You can see a sample of how to write such a request.
At the top, write down which registry office and on whose behalf you are asking to return the application. There, indicate your passport details and telephone number to contact you so that employees can clarify additional questions.
Next, ask to cancel the marriage registration procedure, provide information about the bride and groom. Since any of the newlyweds can submit such a request, it will be enough to attach only a copy of your passport.
After this, send the documents by registered mail with notification.
And many newlyweds do not want to go in person or send a letter. The maximum they are ready to do is call the registry office employees and resolve all issues over the phone.
But it will not be possible to cancel the wedding this way, because the workers do not know and cannot determine who called them. Maybe it's not the bride at all, but another lover who wants to destroy your relationship.
When and where to start submitting an application to the registry office online
The online application for marriage registration is submitted no later than 30 days before the desired wedding day.
However, it is worth considering that the required date may not be available due to the large number of people wishing to sign on that particular day.
After registering on the government services portal, you must wait for your identity to be confirmed, which may take about 2 weeks. Therefore, it is in the interests of newlyweds to submit an application earlier, approximately 1.5–2 months before the desired date.
The first step is registration on the resource.
For people who actively use the Internet, this procedure should not cause any difficulties. The first step is to fill out your full name and contact information.
After clicking the “Register” button, a confirmation code will be sent to the mobile phone number specified during registration; you will need to enter it in the “code” line of the window that appears and click the “Continue” button.
After this, you will be asked to create a password and then save it. Next, a form will appear for filling out personal data. Here you need to indicate:
- FULL NAME;
- floor;
- date and place of birth;
- citizenship;
- passport details;
- insurance certificate number (line “SNILS”).
You only need to fill in your personal information once during registration on the site. The next time you log into the government services portal, you will no longer have to do this - the program will pull up the data automatically.
After filling out all the necessary information, you need to click the “Save” button and, if there are no errors, the program will display a notification about checking the data:
The check usually lasts no more than 15 minutes, after which the following message will appear:
Next, you need to confirm your identity. This can be done in one of three ways:
The first confirmation method is necessary if you plan to use the site in the future. If you are not going to register on this resource, you can use the second method - receive a confirmation code in a registered letter, which will be delivered within two weeks.
Owners of a key with an electronic signature to confirm their identity have the opportunity to use a third method. After this, you should log in to the portal, and you can proceed directly to filling out an application for marriage registration online.
Is it possible to re-apply for marriage registration?
Our life is a very changeable thing. Today you wanted to marry one person, then you changed your mind and decided to formalize your relationship with another. We have already found out how to pick up the application, but is it possible to immediately submit documents for a wedding with someone else?
You can, but you will have to pay the state fee again to submit a new application. Moreover, they will not give you any discount; the amount will be 350 rubles.
And if you decide to arrange everything online, then you may have to wait a little. The fact is that on the government services website all information is stored electronically in a single database.
Also remember that you can resubmit documents to any registry office in Russia; you do not have to take them to the same office as the first time.
After you have received the application, the registry office employee must send this information to the public services service. But we cannot say how quickly he will do it.
Sometimes everything is done in 5 minutes, and sometimes you have to wait several days for the information to be updated.
Submission procedure
To write and submit an application on the State Services portal, you need to go to the service and log in. You will then need to enter your current location. After initialization, a list of services is provided, from which the appropriate item is selected.
Each service includes a description of the specific information and documents that will be needed. Now select the “Get a service” option and fill out the information form. When the electronic request form has been sent, wait for a response. It must arrive within 15 days after submitting the application.
Bad sign
It is believed that withdrawing an application is a bad omen, as it will be difficult to get married again. But statistics say the opposite: 83% of girls have a new wedding.
Psychologists explain it this way: when you want to refuse marriage with a person, it means you are not completely sure of him.
And as a rule, there are reasons for this that you may not even realize. Therefore, if you have such a thought, you should not think about signs, but rather think about whether it will be good for you to live with this person.
In many cases, girls withdraw their application and find a better husband.
But if everything is fine with you, you want to live together and raise children, but you don’t have money for a wedding - just sign at the registry office. Now 35% of newlyweds do this.
You can gather with a very close circle of friends and acquaintances, drink champagne, buy salads and drink tea and cake. Even 1000 rubles may be enough for such a celebration.
There is also a situation when it is necessary to pick up a divorce application from the registry office. We noticed that some sites write incorrect information about this. Remember, either spouse can pick up a divorce application from the registry office. And he can do it on his own. It is not necessary to come together. If the husband or wife takes the documents, then the divorce procedure will not take place. To carry it out, you will need to go to court.
How to register a marriage through State Services
The algorithm of user actions should look like this: Authorization on the site (enter your phone number or email or SNILS and the password specified during registration). Select the “Family and Children” section in the menu. Click on the “Marriage Registration” button. The system will display a small message, informing the user about the progress of the service. If everything is clear, you need to select the electronic format and click the “Get service” button. The system will redirect the user to the page for filling out the applicant’s personal data. You will need to enter your full name, date of birth, nationality, series and passport number, as well as the date and name of the authority that issued the document.
In addition, it is important to indicate whether the applicant was married and the surname that the husband or wife will bear after registration. Next, the applicant has the right to choose the registry office in which the marriage will take place,
Remember the main thing:
- You can pick up the application at any time before the wedding, the main thing is that it is a working day at the registry office.
- The bride and groom can withdraw the application; there is no need to explain the reasons.
- If you cannot come in person, send the notification by registered mail with notification.
- Once the application has been withdrawn, it is almost impossible to return the state fee.
- The fee can only be returned through the court if there are compelling reasons, for example the death of the second spouse.
Questions and answers
Natalya My boyfriend and I submitted an application to the registry office to register our marriage. Then I left for a session for several weeks. The wedding was supposed to take place just after all the exams. But yesterday he called me and said that he wanted to break up. Tell me, can he alone take our application?
Answer Yes, either spouse can withdraw the application from the registry office. At the same time, you will not have to explain why you changed your mind and changed your decision. Marriage in our country is voluntary.
Marina I submitted an application to the registry office with one man 3 weeks ago. But I thought and thought for a long time and realized that I didn’t love him at all. But I truly love someone else. Now we want to get married to him. Can I submit a new application with this person, although I already submitted an application with someone else 3 weeks ago?
Answer Until you are officially married, you can submit as many applications as you want.
Do I need my partner's consent to withdraw an application from the registry office?
Is it possible to pick up an application from the registry office alone to register a marriage? - also one of the important and frequently asked questions. This question is quite logical, because the documents were submitted jointly.
According to the law, no one can forcefully marry; if there is no consent of one of the newlyweds, then the marriage will not be registered. That is why it is not necessary to notify the second participant in the procedure. You can contact the registry office yourself and pick up a request for marriage registration.
After receiving the documents, the couple who decides to formalize their relationship is given one month of reflection. This month is foreseen for such situations. People should consider whether they are doing the right thing, and if they change their mind, cancel the already registered request.
Of course, whether or not to tell your future spouse about your new decision is a personal matter, but taking into account the fact that along with the application at the registry office you often have to leave your passports for a stamp, your potential spouse should also pick up a personal document. If you do not say that you have received the application, he will continue to wait for registration without taking your passport. The loss of an identity document will become a much bigger problem than your refusal to enter into an official marriage.
Now you know whether it is possible to withdraw an application from the registry office and how to do it. You shouldn’t listen to your grandmother’s omens that once you take one application from the registry office, then it’s difficult to get married, this is nonsense. According to statistics, 85% of people who collected applications from the registry office with one person successfully registered a marriage with another. Don't be afraid to change your life. If you are thinking about withdrawing the application, it means that you are not confident in your chosen one, and it is better to stop everything now than later in court a few years later, dividing property and children.
